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If the Cancer Doesn’t Get Me, My Wife’s Driving Will 

April 23, 2023

Week One of my cancer treatment journey is over. This space is usually reserved for Kathy and my wonderful trips to fantastic places around the world. We have been blessed to take these journeys. We are now on a journey of another kind, but a journey none the less.

I am rarely driving now. I am not 100% and until I adjust to my new circumstances, I will not drive. That means Kathy is my chauffeur. This is trying to say the least! Her methodical maneuvers and slow approach cause me to take very deep breaths. This is good because my oxygen levels are dropping and deep breaths are recommended. However, I cannot keep from voicing my opinions, which affect her 0%. This is maddening. I dream now of traffic patterns and one slow car messing everything up—trucks honking loudly and road rage drivers weaving sharply in front of us. Some months ago, when I was driving, I sped up to pass a car and said out loud, “Reached my goal!” Kathy asked, “What goal?” and I responded, “…to get in front of that car…When I drive I always have goals. Don’t you have driving goals?” Kathy shrugged. I took that for a “no.” You see our current driving problem—right?

Speaking of goals—I’m not sure what they should be right now. To take my immunomonoclonal targeted therapy and to live as productive a life as possible, of course. To trust God and thank Jesus for my salvation, without question. I’m settling on simpler goals than I am used to setting—speaking a kind word to Conroe HCA Cancer Center employees and staff. To listen to the fears and hurts of fellow patients and be supportive and kind. To not complain about anything (poor driving skills are an exception) and receive with gratefulness. To count on the Holy Spirit to overcome my fears. To revel in the love poured out generously by family and friends. I reset these goals daily.

My first week had one hiccup—my oxygen levels dropped and I broke out in itchy hives. They stopped infusions and shot me full of Benadryl and an hour later I was back on treatments. On Wednesday, at home, I hit the wall, so to speak, and was so weak I could barely walk. I stayed down for the day, and on Thursday I had perked back up. Friday my week ended with labs. They will be sent to my doctor team and will begin to reveal how the treatments are affecting the defective plasma cells in my bone marrow.

 Praise Report: Your prayers for my body to accept the treatments were wonderful as that is exactly what happened Week One.

Prayer Request: That the treatments accomplish the slowing of the spread of my Multiple Myeloma.

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13


  1. Lorna Weible says:

    Praising with you and Kathy as God answers these requests. He is so gracious. Also praying for Him to faithfully continue to bless you.

  2. Phyllis Behrend says:

    Praying the treatments continue to attack the mutiple myeloma to give you quality life! 🙏🙏🙏

  3. Michele Snow says:

    I was chuckling out loud so much Mike waanted to know what I was reading. He laughed out loudbwith the opening line. So thankful you were able to make it through the first week. We’ll pray for the treatments to slow the spread.
    Much love,
    Michele 🙏❤️

  4. Nora Maloy says:

    Poor Kathy! Oops, did I say that? Oh, poor, poor Kathy. She seems much more tolerant of childish remarks/driving goals than many. I bet she has a remote for her hear aids with settings for background noise, Tv and spouse (off). Smart girl.


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  5. Wayne, yes you can accomplish anything as long as you hang onto our Lords hand. Prayers continue abd when yoh hit a wall, stay down, rest, you will need all your strength. Love you tons.

  6. Paula says:

    Dear Wayne and Kathy,
    How I admire you both! Your testimony is uplifting and I pray for you each day. And I pray for Kathy as she goes through this with you. Now I will add to list: A hedge of protection while traveling ! You are doing awesome, Kathy! 🤗
    My love to you both. I am so grateful for the wonderful parents you are! ~Paula

  7. blauterbach56 says:

    Thank you so much, Wayne, for being willing to share our journey — I have envied you the earlier journeys you shared, but this one not so much. You and Kathy are so very much in my prayers, I know our God is with you every step of the way and will be your shield, fortress and strong deliverer!

    Your fellow traveler and friend, Beth

  8. Priscilla Ogg says:

    Praying your treatments progress well. Your driving is much the same as Larry’s. He is aggressive in his driving as well which causes me to take deep breaths, hold on for my life and keep my eyes closed sometimes when driving from San Marcos to doctor appointments at UT Health in San Antonio. So, I certainly understand your fear.

  9. Cheryl Burke says:

    Continued prayers that these treatments attack this disease and give you quality of life. Prayers for Kathy, as well as y’all go through the journey (especially when she is chauffeuring you around 😂).

  10. Tanya Grona says:

    I’m praying for you Wayne. Prayers for healing, patience, and the feeling of God’s presence. Cancer is a cruel disease and the treatment for it is brutal. The treatment does crazy things to the patient’s body. Take each day one at a time and remember you are God’s child and He loves you so much!

  11. Karen Schultz says:

    Prayers for you and Kathy!

  12. Dee Terry says:

    Dear Wayne, we are praying for slow growth of any myeloma as you continue with therapy. Love to you and Kathy. Bob and Dee Terry

  13. Amy says:

    Your journey, although not preferred, provides you with one more tremendous avenue to share your faith. How difficult it is at times to hand things over to God. Thank you for your testimony through this walk in life.

  14. marthavanbuskirk says:

    Your driving description is very much like Raymond and me, lol! Thank you for letting us know how to specifically pray for you. Prayers up! Sending love to you both!

  15. Steve N Irene Stommel says:

    Many prayers for you and Kathy. You are in the hands of the mighty physician.

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